Why you shouldn't avoid the elephant in the room: difficult conversations can go peacefully

STORY TIME 💭

I just had a flashback of a conversation I had with a someone I know and I noticed how he somewhat aggressively avoided the elephant in the room.

I’m not like that.

I don’t like to pretend like nothing is wrong, when there clearly is something that needs to be addressed, so I told him what I had observed about him avoiding to have “that” conversation.

He told me that the reason that he would avoid confronting issues is because fights he used to see his parents have at home.

It scarred him and he began to associate having difficult conversations with fighting and violence.

This is where I realized that he was dealing with a trauma and he needed help finding a more effective way to deal with it.

From the aggression in his tone I could tell he was frustrated, but behind the frustration I saw someone that was vulnerable.

I chose not to get frustrated with him and used the opportunity to share what I learned about having hard conversations.

I told him that avoiding to talk about difficult things and pretending they don’t exist won’t make the problem disappear.
It can even get worse, because you never addressed it and you never dealt with it.

Some conversations are hard to have, but they’re necessary, and just because they’re hard, doesn’t mean they will be violent by default.

You can have hard conversations that go peacefully.

What determines the difference in outcome is your approach to the situation, as well as your conversation partner:

𝙄𝙩’𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙫𝙨. 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙤𝙣, 𝙞𝙩’𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙬𝙤 𝙤𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙫𝙨. 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙗𝙡𝙚𝙢.

It’s about understanding each other so that you can be on the same page again.

Next time you feel nervous about having a difficult conversation, remember that you can influence the course it takes.

With the right approach, the right mindset and the necessary conversational skills you can make the conversation feel lighter and end peaceful.

Invest in learning these skills. They are so valuable to possess and beautiful too, given the relationships you can persevere.

💬𝘊𝘭𝘪𝘤𝘬 𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘥𝘶𝘭𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘧𝘳𝘦𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘶𝘭𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘫𝘰𝘪𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘦𝘹𝘤𝘭𝘶𝘴𝘪𝘷𝘦 1:1 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘮 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘦𝘵 𝘤𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘴, 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘱 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘣𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦.

Even if you decide to go separate ways, how great if you can do so without an ugly fight, but in peace.

You simply can’t go wrong with them.

KEYS OF LIFE 🔑 🩵.

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